Radio silence can now be broken, as of about September-ish* I will become a Mum of two!!
Now the scan is out of the way (everything looking as it should – hurrah!) and all the relevant ‘real life’ people have been told, I can talk about it here. The first trimester has definitely been more of a struggle this time around. The exhaustion feels worse, and the sickness too, but then there have been the headaches and the hideous cold and bronchitis I couldn’t take anything for. For me, 2012 has so far mostly been about feeling pretty grotty. I have renamed the first trimester the hangover trimester.
I also had no concept just how sore breastfeeding while pregnant could be. I’m not sure this is a universal experience but it does seem a fairly common. Think how tender your boobs are when pregnant, add the toe curling first few seconds when feeding a newborn and then add a teething toddler. Big fat screaming ouch. This is what led me to nightwean Littleman a few weeks ago. I could no longer sleep while feeding him (we were co-sleeping) because of the discomfort. I was exhausted and I realised if I didn’t do something there was a risk that I wouldn’t be able to continue breastfeeding at all.
I thought that J would howl the house down about the change, and there were tears, but they were mostly mournful rather than the ‘end of the world’ meltdown I was expecting. I think this had a lot to do with the drop in milk supply and the change in taste that seems to happen as result of pregnancy hormones. He had been feeding more (another reason I was getting even less sleep) and getting frustrated with the result, so I think there was less reward(?) during night feeds. Now this doesn’t mean Littleman is sleeping any better but it does mean that it’s easier and quicker for DH to settle him at night. He is however eating more during the day.
The only time things have got slightly tricky is during teething. J has canines coming through at the moment and they’re taking their sweet time torturing him and us. Before pregnancy, J would have relied on breastfeeding while teething, for nourishment while he finds it painful to chew, and for comfort. He does still nurse in the day for comfort but with very little milk available this has meant we have had to rely on offering yoghurt and fruit puree pouches for him to ‘drink’. And now we often have to take him on a drive to get him to sleep at night. Not ideal but we will work something else out in time I’m sure. J wants to be asleep, he just hasn’t worked out how to get there by himself yet.
What else? There’s plenty to do to get the house ready for baby number two. So may projects to get under way! The spare room needs to be resurrected and turned from a storage/junk room into a big boy’s bedroom – no small task. The kitchen also needs to be finished and the travesty that is currently the garden sorted out. I also need to overhaul my wardrobe now I know a lot of the clothes in there won’t fit for quite some time. It’s definitely time for a clearout and for investing in a few more maternity bits a pieces. At 13 weeks pregnant my bump looks like it did at 20 weeks last time around and it was getting very difficult to hide so I’m very glad we can finally tell people!
So that’s my news. 2012 is going to quite a year!
Baby no.2 is on the way!
*I was pregnant with Littleman for almost 44 weeks so Baby No.2 may make a bid to stay inside until October if last time is anything to go by!